Thoughts on a Chinese lady, and the book Invisible by Hsiao-Hung Pai

Dither, dither in Plymouth, should I source from selectanescort.com, book a girl from glamour girls, go to the opposition and book from adultwork. Lots of colleagues here today, but if I am nifty I should be able to see someone after work and before dinner. I am not working late but they are.

So I chose a low cost option in the end, I found a Gentleman’s Club on Union street which is a parlour. The source was a recent Punternet review. Bit indiscrete, but it does have a hiding area behind the open front door so people can’t see you from the street while you are waiting for the second door to open.

Two women were working there and no one else was present. The place was remarkably clean, well decorated and well fitted out with good furniture and ornaments. Some care was shown. So there was no throwing you clothes on the floor.

I chose the Chinese lady for some company. The other lady was a very presentable white 40 year old. She felt she could not speak English well, but she could, she was very good at English. She is learning to read and write English at collage now, required for her full time job. We had an interesting chat about her job, and the Chinese addiction of gambling, with travel. She would love to go to Vegas.

We started off with a relaxing massage and then oral covered, full sex missionary and reverse.

One reason I suppose I chose a parlour and a Chinese lady is because I have started to read the book Invisible.

Invisible is an expose of the sex trade in the UK. How women are drawn into the sex trade, the abuse. The writing in the book and the cover quotes seem to suggest the author is an abolitionist, and found the trade abusive. Though in fairness the author, Hsiao-Hung Pai does not say she is an abolitionist, at least so far. She has worked undercover in other investigations mainly concerning employment in the catering industry. While working under cover, investigating migrant workers she found that there were many hints that women were also working in the sex industry. So this investigation was into the UK sex industry where she works as a housekeeper in brothels. What I am not sure about is the ethics of the filming she also did, which will appear in a Chanel 4 documentary.

The quotes on the cover of the book are quite horrendous, stating abuse and criminals, passages in the book talk about selling their bodies, all prohibitionist words.

In this chilling expose, investigative journalist Hsiao-Hung Pai works undercover as a housekeeper in a brothel and unveils the terrible reality of the British sex trade. Many workers are trapped, some are controlled – the lack of freedoms this invisible strait of society suffers is both shocking and scandalous and at odds with the idea of a modern Britain in the twenty-first century.

The quotes in the Guardian paper seemed to suggest a more nuanced problem, suggesting most women choose to work in the sex industry voluntarily, and to earn good money. I have started to read the book trying to reconcile these two seemingly disparate views. I get the impression the answer will be wages in mainline work are so poor, the work conditions in catering are abusive, sex work becomes the only profitable option for these women. The culprits will be the employers and Governments immigration laws.

So far in reading my reading, the abuse these women suffer are from their low wages (below legal minimum), abusive bosses in the catering industry where people are over worked, underpaid, and sexually abused. Illegal residency status makes it difficult for these women to report abuse. So they end up seeking higher employment in the sex industry. I have a way to go reading, and will report back later with a full report.

As for the Chinese lady I met, she complained it had been a quiet day. The previous day when she was not working, it had been busy. Now a school holiday was coming up next week, it would be quiet next week.

LAURA’S DIARY: How to book an escort …. the survival guide re etiquette

I was reading LAURA’S blog,  and I came across her section on how to book an escort.  Ha,  I said to myself,  it might have a bit about how to pay an escort a large wedge of money,  where you don’t want to carry it around with you.

The entry is priceless humour of what many escorts have to put up with.  I do often despair in humanity.  Anyways,  I now know how to pay an escort a large sum of money,  yes a cheque on the day
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You probably think this blog is about you, no, it's about our failures

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I would like to rip your heart out and show it to you before you die.  No, wait; you don’t deserve such a quick death.  How about we use the old Turkish technique and place a large pike in which the tip has been dulled and stabilize it in the ground, I could then hoist you onto it, allowing the dulled tip to pass into your anus. 

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Thank you for blogging this. This was the second post of the day I have read about the rape of a sex worker. Yours was from a client, and the other was from a sex worker. In the UK were prostitution is legal, but brothels and agencies are not, there still is a reticence to report rape to the police. There is a campaign to treat abuse of sex workers as a hate crime. This was implemented by the police in Liverpool and is a success. We are trying to get this debated and implemented throughout the country.

You probably think this blog is about you, no, it's about our failures

Reblogged from danoconnell1815:

I would like to rip your heart out and show it to you before you die.  No, wait; you don’t deserve such a quick death.  How about we use the old Turkish technique and place a large pike in which the tip has been dulled and stabilize it in the ground, I could then hoist you onto it, allowing the dulled tip to pass into your anus. 

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Thank you for blogging this. This was the second post of the day I have read about the rape of a sex worker. Yours was from a client, and the other was from a sex worker. In the UK were prostitution is legal, but brothels and agencies are not, there still is a reticence to report rape to the police. There is a campaign to treat abuse of sex workers as a hate crime. This was implemented by the police in Liverpool and is a success. We are trying to get this debated and implemented throughout the country.

Just Another Statistic.

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I am in a relationship with a married man. I should not be in one but I am.

I cannot say it started out of love. I barely even know the man personally. It was just dinner - I could have said no. I could have just went home instead of his hotel room. I could have just not slept with him, but I just have to put myself in that situation.

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Saw this. I have always thought sexwork to be honest. A transaction between concenting adults, negotiated services. When completed we go our different ways.

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Reformers are far more common than Feminists… the passion to decide to look after your fellow-men, and especially women, to do good to them in your way is far more common than the desire to put into everyone's hand the power to look after themselves.  -  Lady Margaret Rhondda

For every social movement there is a watershed moment, a point at which the struggle ceases to be unceasingly uphill and begins to develop momentum. 

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I wish I was so positive as you. Maybe it's because all around England there are these new criminalise the client laws. Yet to see what happens, the ROI being the first to propose a law. The population, as opposed to the law makers and activists don't generally care much about sexwork or not. They get concerned if it's in their street or next door. They don't really care either way when it occurs behind closed doors. There is always the assumption that business travellers away from home will dally. As one responder said, people question why the police waste so much money on sting operations. In the UK breaking up a brothel can earn them money from POCA, but I expect it does not cover the legal costs.

Why my nose isn't red.

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I have always been uncomfortable with the enforced corporate jolliness of events like Red Nose Day and Children in need. Seemingly designed by the office wag who likes to tell you how wild and wacky they are, the sight of rich celebrities enjoying themselves so we feel obliged to give money has always been slightly stomach churning. Whilst I would happily give money to never see the BBC news team perform another excruciatingly embarrassing stocking clad dance routine this has nothing to do with being charitable, more an attempt to protect my own mind from the experience.

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So much I agree with. I hate the office sponsor trip. The next one is a trip to Ecuador, and some mad dash through the jungle. You get coerced into giving. Red nose day, don't watch it, but who was that buffoon in the shopping center on an exercise bike and the TV cameras. Charity muggers on the high street, I now have to plot my course across the road, avoiding the chuggers, leaving a large margin of space, a chugger can move fast leaving all escape routes blocked. The article and lying statistics used on child abuse, conflating with consenting sexwork was unbelievable. OK I am nieve, totally believable when abolitionists get involved, and no journalists bother to check facts.